Which waiting room are you in?

By Carol Gumbo

Often l have a lot of Christian single ladies who desperately want to be in a relationship saying they met a guy or know a guy from church who is "saved" and they have started seeing each other, or are spending loads of time talking on the phone or skyping etc but some how there is no commitment from the guy. They give excused like we are seeing each other, we are not in a relationship but are exclusive, or things like the guy disappears for a while and comes back and starts calling a lot, flirting but never really stating their intentions.

If this is you l am sorry to say but you have been put in a waiting room, where this guy knows that if he picks up the phone you will gladly pick up and entertain him while he still looking for greener grass and not making a commitment to a relationship with intent to marry. This is the waiting room, were you are hoping that things will work out and that this guy will come and make a commitment, while you are in that waiting room which God never instructed you to be in you are praying asking God to make things work with this guy. what you might not realize is that the right godly spouse for you might be in God's waiting room looking for you but you are so focused in this waiting room that God never told you to go in praying for some miracle or for God to rubber stamp this supposed relationship or thing you have going on. 

Mean while God is saying no my daughter leave you life taking head of my direction have l not told you that I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye. (Psalms 32:8 NKJV) God will instruct you to the right place and right someone for you he has told you that But those who wait on the Lord Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint. (Isaiah 40:31 NKJV). 

Today l say wait on God because if you wait on him you will not get weary or faint or heart broken, because God will instruct you and bring you to the right person at the appointed time. God knows you have a desire to get married and that desire is not a bad thing however do not make it your main focus more than your personal relationship with God because when you do you will end up in Mr Right now who will break your heart and use you to fulfill his own personal needs and leave you heart broken when he has finally found someone whom he wants to commit to. 

So today l ask you again which wait room are you God's or Mr Right now you decide, if you are in Mr Right now's waiting room you can make a decision today and say no more l choose to wait on God and be who He has called you to be while you patiently wait on God.

SHARED FROM: Talking About Christian Walk,Relationships, Love and Romance with Sigoluhle Mandizha (https://www.facebook.com/1LovePage?ref=stream&hc_location=stream)

"What does the Bible say about dating / courting?"

By Tinashe Maruta
Although the words “courtship” and “dating” are not found in the Bible, we are given some... principles that Christians are to go by during the time before marriage. The first is that we must separate from the world's view on dating because God's way contradicts the world's (2 Peter 2:20). While the world’s view may be to date around as much as we want, the important thing is to discover the character of a person before making any commitment to him or her. We should find out if the person has been born again in the Spirit of Christ (John 3:3-8) and if he or she shares the same desire toward Christ-likeness (Philippians 2:5). The ultimate goal of dating or courting is finding a life partner. The Bible tells us that, as Christians, we should not marry an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14-15) because this would weaken our relationship with Christ and compromise our morals and standards.

When one is in a committed relationship, whether dating or courting, it is important to remember to love the Lord above all else (Matthew 10:37). To say or believe that another person is “everything” or the most important thing in one’s life is idolatry, which is sin (Galatians 5:20; Colossians 3:5). Also, we are not to defile our bodies by having premarital sex (1 Corinthians 6:9, 13; 2 Timothy 2:22). Sexual immorality is a sin not only against God but against our own bodies (1 Corinthians 6:18). It is important to love and honor others as we love ourselves (Romans 12:9-10), and this is certainly true for a courtship or dating relationship. Whether dating or courting, following these biblical principles is the best way to have a secure foundation for a marriage. It is one of the most important decisions we will ever make, because when two people marry, they cleave to one another and become one flesh in a relationship which God intended to be permanent and unbreakable (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5).