Which waiting room are you in?

By Carol Gumbo

Often l have a lot of Christian single ladies who desperately want to be in a relationship saying they met a guy or know a guy from church who is "saved" and they have started seeing each other, or are spending loads of time talking on the phone or skyping etc but some how there is no commitment from the guy. They give excused like we are seeing each other, we are not in a relationship but are exclusive, or things like the guy disappears for a while and comes back and starts calling a lot, flirting but never really stating their intentions.

If this is you l am sorry to say but you have been put in a waiting room, where this guy knows that if he picks up the phone you will gladly pick up and entertain him while he still looking for greener grass and not making a commitment to a relationship with intent to marry. This is the waiting room, were you are hoping that things will work out and that this guy will come and make a commitment, while you are in that waiting room which God never instructed you to be in you are praying asking God to make things work with this guy. what you might not realize is that the right godly spouse for you might be in God's waiting room looking for you but you are so focused in this waiting room that God never told you to go in praying for some miracle or for God to rubber stamp this supposed relationship or thing you have going on. 

Mean while God is saying no my daughter leave you life taking head of my direction have l not told you that I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye. (Psalms 32:8 NKJV) God will instruct you to the right place and right someone for you he has told you that But those who wait on the Lord Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint. (Isaiah 40:31 NKJV). 

Today l say wait on God because if you wait on him you will not get weary or faint or heart broken, because God will instruct you and bring you to the right person at the appointed time. God knows you have a desire to get married and that desire is not a bad thing however do not make it your main focus more than your personal relationship with God because when you do you will end up in Mr Right now who will break your heart and use you to fulfill his own personal needs and leave you heart broken when he has finally found someone whom he wants to commit to. 

So today l ask you again which wait room are you God's or Mr Right now you decide, if you are in Mr Right now's waiting room you can make a decision today and say no more l choose to wait on God and be who He has called you to be while you patiently wait on God.

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AVOID THE TYPICAL PITFALLS OF MARRIAGE

Written by Ann Douglas

No couple embarks on married life expecting to end up in divorce court, but that’s what happens to more than one million American couples each year. And when they do the postmortem, they often find their marriage was sabotaged by one of these 10 traps:

1. Taking your partner for granted. That’s like having a garden that you’re not weeding or fertilizing, says Robert Billingham, professor of human development and family studies at Indiana University. “You can’t expect it to continue to thrive.” Let your partner know you appreciate him or her.

2. Forgetting that a good marriage takes work. “People think that having a happy marriage is a magical, mystical occurrence,” says marriage and family therapist Dr. Leslie Parrott, co-author of When Bad Things Happen to Good Marriages (Zondervan/HarperCollins). “We’ve accepted the fact that parenting takes a lot of skill, but we don’t want to accept the idea that romantic love takes a great deal of work, too.”

3. Not talking through conflict. If you rely on heavy sighs, slammed doors and other non-verbal communication when something is bothering you, you could be playing with fire. As painful as it may be to get the conversation started, you must speak up. “Otherwise, problems start festering and begin to take on a life of their own,” explains Sharon Naylor, author of The Unofficial Guide to Divorce (Hungry Minds).

4. Failing to romance your partner. “We all want to be made to feel special,” says psychologist Kate Wachs, author of Relationships for Dummies (Hungry Minds) and Dr. Kate’s Love Secrets (Paper Chase Press). “That’s why it’s so important to set aside at least one night per week for you and your spouse. Use this regular ‘date night’ to share your hopes and dreams.”

5. Fighting dirty. The better you know somebody, the easier it is to hurt that person. “No matter how angry you may be about something,” Naylor says, “you need to resist the temptation to figure out the one thing that will hurt your partner the most and then use that against him.”

6. Fighting over money. A recent study by the Million Dollar Round Table, an international association of life insurance and financial services professionals, found that 43% of married couples argue about money. If money’s becoming a major source of conflict, you might consider sitting down with a financial planner or some other 3rd party that can help come up with a financial game plan you both can live with.

7. Letting the passion fizzle. “Have sex often — anytime either of you is in the mood,” Wachs says. “If you wait until both partners are in the mood, you won’t end up having much sex at all and, over time, you’ll end up drifting apart.”

8. Shutting down sexually when you’re angry rather than dealing with issues. Although withholding affection may seem like the ideal way to punish your partner, you risk seriously damaging your relationship, Wachs says.

9. Failing to understand that marriages have ups and downs. “It’s OK to expect incredible moments in your marriage,” Parrott says. “Just don’t expect them to happen every day.”

10. Throwing in the towel too easily. “We’re so accustomed to the concept of obsolescence that we treat our partners as disposable,” says Herb Glieberman, a Chicago divorce attorney and author. Vow to rekindle the flames rather than looking for the closest escape hatch.

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