Which waiting room are you in?

By Carol Gumbo

Often l have a lot of Christian single ladies who desperately want to be in a relationship saying they met a guy or know a guy from church who is "saved" and they have started seeing each other, or are spending loads of time talking on the phone or skyping etc but some how there is no commitment from the guy. They give excused like we are seeing each other, we are not in a relationship but are exclusive, or things like the guy disappears for a while and comes back and starts calling a lot, flirting but never really stating their intentions.

If this is you l am sorry to say but you have been put in a waiting room, where this guy knows that if he picks up the phone you will gladly pick up and entertain him while he still looking for greener grass and not making a commitment to a relationship with intent to marry. This is the waiting room, were you are hoping that things will work out and that this guy will come and make a commitment, while you are in that waiting room which God never instructed you to be in you are praying asking God to make things work with this guy. what you might not realize is that the right godly spouse for you might be in God's waiting room looking for you but you are so focused in this waiting room that God never told you to go in praying for some miracle or for God to rubber stamp this supposed relationship or thing you have going on. 

Mean while God is saying no my daughter leave you life taking head of my direction have l not told you that I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye. (Psalms 32:8 NKJV) God will instruct you to the right place and right someone for you he has told you that But those who wait on the Lord Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint. (Isaiah 40:31 NKJV). 

Today l say wait on God because if you wait on him you will not get weary or faint or heart broken, because God will instruct you and bring you to the right person at the appointed time. God knows you have a desire to get married and that desire is not a bad thing however do not make it your main focus more than your personal relationship with God because when you do you will end up in Mr Right now who will break your heart and use you to fulfill his own personal needs and leave you heart broken when he has finally found someone whom he wants to commit to. 

So today l ask you again which wait room are you God's or Mr Right now you decide, if you are in Mr Right now's waiting room you can make a decision today and say no more l choose to wait on God and be who He has called you to be while you patiently wait on God.

SHARED FROM: Talking About Christian Walk,Relationships, Love and Romance with Sigoluhle Mandizha (https://www.facebook.com/1LovePage?ref=stream&hc_location=stream)

"What does the Bible say about dating / courting?"

By Tinashe Maruta
Although the words “courtship” and “dating” are not found in the Bible, we are given some... principles that Christians are to go by during the time before marriage. The first is that we must separate from the world's view on dating because God's way contradicts the world's (2 Peter 2:20). While the world’s view may be to date around as much as we want, the important thing is to discover the character of a person before making any commitment to him or her. We should find out if the person has been born again in the Spirit of Christ (John 3:3-8) and if he or she shares the same desire toward Christ-likeness (Philippians 2:5). The ultimate goal of dating or courting is finding a life partner. The Bible tells us that, as Christians, we should not marry an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14-15) because this would weaken our relationship with Christ and compromise our morals and standards.

When one is in a committed relationship, whether dating or courting, it is important to remember to love the Lord above all else (Matthew 10:37). To say or believe that another person is “everything” or the most important thing in one’s life is idolatry, which is sin (Galatians 5:20; Colossians 3:5). Also, we are not to defile our bodies by having premarital sex (1 Corinthians 6:9, 13; 2 Timothy 2:22). Sexual immorality is a sin not only against God but against our own bodies (1 Corinthians 6:18). It is important to love and honor others as we love ourselves (Romans 12:9-10), and this is certainly true for a courtship or dating relationship. Whether dating or courting, following these biblical principles is the best way to have a secure foundation for a marriage. It is one of the most important decisions we will ever make, because when two people marry, they cleave to one another and become one flesh in a relationship which God intended to be permanent and unbreakable (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5).

Such a Wonderful letter! Dear future husband

Dear future husband
by Tinashe Maruta

This is a letter for a Christian girl to her future husband. I am giving this for all the ladies to dedicate it to their future husband. Proverbs 18:21

Dear future husband

l know you are surrounded by many girls, and some are imposters of me but I want to meet you, I want us to be boyfriend and girlfriend and for it to lead to marriage because, is it not why girls have boyfriends? In hope they become married one day? I am doing God’s will (Matthew 7:21-24) which is works for the good of those who love God, who are called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28). I am struggling I admit, and I get down sometimes but God has been working in me I’ve seen what he’s brought me out of and how I’ve changed and Abba encourages me to keep going. I admit I am clingy but no worries, it’s to God. Honestly future husband (if God permits me one) you have to seek God first before me, and you HAVE TO love God more than anything in this entire universe, including me. Don’t get me wrong, I would like to have you as my husband, if you would have me right now and live happily ever after, but it doesn’t work that way.
There will be disagreements, financial needs, busy schedules, and financially, spiritually, and emotionally I am not prepared for that. I am strengthening myself by the grace of God, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13) If you wait for me til I am ready that would be quite lovely. I want you to be my spiritual leader and to consult God in all matters. I want us to read the word together and prayer together but I also separately so we can have alone time with God. I will do my best to be prudent wife (Proverbs 19:14). I will submit to you, as I would the Lord (Ephesians 5:22). Love me the way Christ loved the church and gave himself for her, and love me the way you love your own body (Ephesians 5:25,28) I acknowledge I am the weaker partner (1 Peter 3:7) but I will also be a virtuous woman (Proverbs 31:10) I will be a great wife (With the Lord’s help), I will listen when you speak, say soft words as to not stir up anger (Proverbs 15:1), cook (well try to) but I love to bake, be your source of tenderness and give advice when you need it, stay faithful, love our children if I can bear some though do not be upset if the children are born with red hair and green eyes or perhaps blue, because it runs in my family. And when we visit my parents, my dad could tell the children stories from his life on the ranch and the experinces he’s gone through and I would love for them to call him grandpa.
Future husband I may not have met you yet or perhaps I do but you must know my heart belongs to Abba, He takes care of me, protects me, is faithful and He’s the only one I trust fully because He knows what He’s doing and what I’m going through. Future husband, I’ve turned a lot of guys down (I am not saying I’m super gorgeous or anything) because I know you will be different and cause I don’t need to focus on a relationship right now, nor am I ready for one.
The thought of you excites me, especially because I want you to seek God more than I want you to seek me, I want you to teach me and guide me to Christ. Let us pray together, fast together, and grow up our family to serve the Lord (Joshua 24:15). I will wait patiently for you.
Just know that I will love God more than you and I would love to meet you and spend the rest of our lives together. Just also know I love backing up what I say with the word of God so lets have fun memorizing scripture and reading the word. I am excited to see your loving eyes, your handsome smile, to be in the strong arms that will protect me, and hear the beautiful word of God coming from your lips, to praise God and sing to him and give him his glory, to lay down next to you every night, read scripture with me and pray with me when I can’t seem to fall asleep. I want to kiss you like crazy before you leave to work so …yes future husband..I will be patiently waiting for you. ♥

Sealed with love
Future Wife

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