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"What does the Bible say about dating / courting?"

By Tinashe Maruta
Although the words “courtship” and “dating” are not found in the Bible, we are given some... principles that Christians are to go by during the time before marriage. The first is that we must separate from the world's view on dating because God's way contradicts the world's (2 Peter 2:20). While the world’s view may be to date around as much as we want, the important thing is to discover the character of a person before making any commitment to him or her. We should find out if the person has been born again in the Spirit of Christ (John 3:3-8) and if he or she shares the same desire toward Christ-likeness (Philippians 2:5). The ultimate goal of dating or courting is finding a life partner. The Bible tells us that, as Christians, we should not marry an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14-15) because this would weaken our relationship with Christ and compromise our morals and standards.

When one is in a committed relationship, whether dating or courting, it is important to remember to love the Lord above all else (Matthew 10:37). To say or believe that another person is “everything” or the most important thing in one’s life is idolatry, which is sin (Galatians 5:20; Colossians 3:5). Also, we are not to defile our bodies by having premarital sex (1 Corinthians 6:9, 13; 2 Timothy 2:22). Sexual immorality is a sin not only against God but against our own bodies (1 Corinthians 6:18). It is important to love and honor others as we love ourselves (Romans 12:9-10), and this is certainly true for a courtship or dating relationship. Whether dating or courting, following these biblical principles is the best way to have a secure foundation for a marriage. It is one of the most important decisions we will ever make, because when two people marry, they cleave to one another and become one flesh in a relationship which God intended to be permanent and unbreakable (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5).

AVOID THE TYPICAL PITFALLS OF MARRIAGE

Written by Ann Douglas

No couple embarks on married life expecting to end up in divorce court, but that’s what happens to more than one million American couples each year. And when they do the postmortem, they often find their marriage was sabotaged by one of these 10 traps:

1. Taking your partner for granted. That’s like having a garden that you’re not weeding or fertilizing, says Robert Billingham, professor of human development and family studies at Indiana University. “You can’t expect it to continue to thrive.” Let your partner know you appreciate him or her.

2. Forgetting that a good marriage takes work. “People think that having a happy marriage is a magical, mystical occurrence,” says marriage and family therapist Dr. Leslie Parrott, co-author of When Bad Things Happen to Good Marriages (Zondervan/HarperCollins). “We’ve accepted the fact that parenting takes a lot of skill, but we don’t want to accept the idea that romantic love takes a great deal of work, too.”

3. Not talking through conflict. If you rely on heavy sighs, slammed doors and other non-verbal communication when something is bothering you, you could be playing with fire. As painful as it may be to get the conversation started, you must speak up. “Otherwise, problems start festering and begin to take on a life of their own,” explains Sharon Naylor, author of The Unofficial Guide to Divorce (Hungry Minds).

4. Failing to romance your partner. “We all want to be made to feel special,” says psychologist Kate Wachs, author of Relationships for Dummies (Hungry Minds) and Dr. Kate’s Love Secrets (Paper Chase Press). “That’s why it’s so important to set aside at least one night per week for you and your spouse. Use this regular ‘date night’ to share your hopes and dreams.”

5. Fighting dirty. The better you know somebody, the easier it is to hurt that person. “No matter how angry you may be about something,” Naylor says, “you need to resist the temptation to figure out the one thing that will hurt your partner the most and then use that against him.”

6. Fighting over money. A recent study by the Million Dollar Round Table, an international association of life insurance and financial services professionals, found that 43% of married couples argue about money. If money’s becoming a major source of conflict, you might consider sitting down with a financial planner or some other 3rd party that can help come up with a financial game plan you both can live with.

7. Letting the passion fizzle. “Have sex often — anytime either of you is in the mood,” Wachs says. “If you wait until both partners are in the mood, you won’t end up having much sex at all and, over time, you’ll end up drifting apart.”

8. Shutting down sexually when you’re angry rather than dealing with issues. Although withholding affection may seem like the ideal way to punish your partner, you risk seriously damaging your relationship, Wachs says.

9. Failing to understand that marriages have ups and downs. “It’s OK to expect incredible moments in your marriage,” Parrott says. “Just don’t expect them to happen every day.”

10. Throwing in the towel too easily. “We’re so accustomed to the concept of obsolescence that we treat our partners as disposable,” says Herb Glieberman, a Chicago divorce attorney and author. Vow to rekindle the flames rather than looking for the closest escape hatch.

Source (Click to follow link): Talking About Christian Walk,Relationships, Love and Romance with Sigoluhle Mandizha

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RELATIONSHIP WISDOM NUGGETS FOR LADIES

By Rose Mushi

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…
Look for someone who can be a complimentary not a supplementary..

You should not be the one doing all the bending…Compromise is two way street...

You need time to heal between relationships…
There is nothing cute about baggage…
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship...

If something bothers you, speak up.......A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you..

If he cheated WITH you, he’ll cheat ON you.....Never borrow someone else’s man...

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Such a Wonderful letter! Dear future husband

Dear future husband
by Tinashe Maruta

This is a letter for a Christian girl to her future husband. I am giving this for all the ladies to dedicate it to their future husband. Proverbs 18:21

Dear future husband

l know you are surrounded by many girls, and some are imposters of me but I want to meet you, I want us to be boyfriend and girlfriend and for it to lead to marriage because, is it not why girls have boyfriends? In hope they become married one day? I am doing God’s will (Matthew 7:21-24) which is works for the good of those who love God, who are called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28). I am struggling I admit, and I get down sometimes but God has been working in me I’ve seen what he’s brought me out of and how I’ve changed and Abba encourages me to keep going. I admit I am clingy but no worries, it’s to God. Honestly future husband (if God permits me one) you have to seek God first before me, and you HAVE TO love God more than anything in this entire universe, including me. Don’t get me wrong, I would like to have you as my husband, if you would have me right now and live happily ever after, but it doesn’t work that way.
There will be disagreements, financial needs, busy schedules, and financially, spiritually, and emotionally I am not prepared for that. I am strengthening myself by the grace of God, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13) If you wait for me til I am ready that would be quite lovely. I want you to be my spiritual leader and to consult God in all matters. I want us to read the word together and prayer together but I also separately so we can have alone time with God. I will do my best to be prudent wife (Proverbs 19:14). I will submit to you, as I would the Lord (Ephesians 5:22). Love me the way Christ loved the church and gave himself for her, and love me the way you love your own body (Ephesians 5:25,28) I acknowledge I am the weaker partner (1 Peter 3:7) but I will also be a virtuous woman (Proverbs 31:10) I will be a great wife (With the Lord’s help), I will listen when you speak, say soft words as to not stir up anger (Proverbs 15:1), cook (well try to) but I love to bake, be your source of tenderness and give advice when you need it, stay faithful, love our children if I can bear some though do not be upset if the children are born with red hair and green eyes or perhaps blue, because it runs in my family. And when we visit my parents, my dad could tell the children stories from his life on the ranch and the experinces he’s gone through and I would love for them to call him grandpa.
Future husband I may not have met you yet or perhaps I do but you must know my heart belongs to Abba, He takes care of me, protects me, is faithful and He’s the only one I trust fully because He knows what He’s doing and what I’m going through. Future husband, I’ve turned a lot of guys down (I am not saying I’m super gorgeous or anything) because I know you will be different and cause I don’t need to focus on a relationship right now, nor am I ready for one.
The thought of you excites me, especially because I want you to seek God more than I want you to seek me, I want you to teach me and guide me to Christ. Let us pray together, fast together, and grow up our family to serve the Lord (Joshua 24:15). I will wait patiently for you.
Just know that I will love God more than you and I would love to meet you and spend the rest of our lives together. Just also know I love backing up what I say with the word of God so lets have fun memorizing scripture and reading the word. I am excited to see your loving eyes, your handsome smile, to be in the strong arms that will protect me, and hear the beautiful word of God coming from your lips, to praise God and sing to him and give him his glory, to lay down next to you every night, read scripture with me and pray with me when I can’t seem to fall asleep. I want to kiss you like crazy before you leave to work so …yes future husband..I will be patiently waiting for you. ♥

Sealed with love
Future Wife

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