One point I want to start with is this: LIFE HAS A MEANING, YES, IT HAS A PURPOSE! While living we must identify what our meaning of life is before we die, or, at best, before we are of evening age. Every single of us has something he/she would like to achieve which uniquely identify you, a goal that you want to achieve before your days are over in this beautiful world.
It is a good idea for you that you're reflecting on this today, that's why you're reading this epistle. I say so because the timing of setting big goals is when you're young. At this moment to you the sky is the limit, you can be whatever you like, and you have time, energy, spirit and opportunities before you. I guarantee you as time goes and you grow older things becomes thinner and narrower. You will not talk of the sky but your own arms length as the limit. You begin to have social responsibility that ties you around; your own energy got spent reducing your speed every day. So while still have all the advantages on your side, PLAN, set your goals and keep focused to achieve them. It is not, I must caution you, an easy task. It involves keeping away from things you may like now, it calls for high sense or discipline. But then, at all standards, it is necessary thing to do!
Somebody said this statement to me while I was just form three at Galanos Sec School some years ago; "If you are not handsome at the age of 20s, if you are not strong at the age of 30s, if you are not wise at the age of 40s and if you are not rich at the age of 50s, then forget about it". I won’t forget this statement in my entire life; it is a challenging statement to set goals with time. Let me add this to you, "If you fail to plan, you're planning to fail".
My dear, it is both important and must to set goals in life, just like the way it is important for driver to know his way when driving. If you don’t have any goal you will not be able to focus on anything. To you everything will be right and you will just do anything. You must learn to dream, set targets and achieve them. For example, college to go, combination to study, where to work, which patterned. All these are life choices and they are made after a thorough consideration and achieved through a planned, organized and coordinated EFFORTS.
HOW TO KNOW OUR GOALS!
This is relatively difficulty process to some people, for others it is easy and straightforward. One may know without even thinking what one want to achieve or what one want to do starting from career, lifestyle, choice of partners etc.
These are things you can use to know your goals, just sit down, and think hard, talk to yourself an important question: "WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE AND TO DO FOR YOU TO BE HAPPY?" Look around you what is it that interests you? Look at the people you look up to and admire and wish you were them, what is it that you like about them? These are some of the questions that may help you. Do not rush take your time to reflect. Talk to people you trust, your parents, teachers, and mentors, people with experience, do your research, and of course, PRAY. (Never do a mistake of telling everybody about your plans; it might keep you in a worse position)
You might ask me this question; "What if I am planning to do something nobody had ever done?" For sure that is the highest degree of thinking, from which, the judge will be GOD and yourself! Just think hard about it, see the end before the beginning, PRAY, and then do it.
It is important to plan because there are things which you can only do once in your entire life time. Be careful therefore to play your cards well and make informed decisions. Once you are clear, you know what you want to be then work for it. Give it all your strength and effort to reaching it. Don’t ever despair, don’t ever say I can’t do this, because it is not true, you can and you must. You may not be genius, but as long as you know what you want, you will put in all that you have to get it. This is the spirit I want young men (ladies and gentlemen) to have.
WHAT DRIVES YOUR LIFE?
There are thousands of circumstances, values and emotions that drive or may drive your life. The common ones are:
Guilt.
A number of people spend their entire life running from regrets and hiding their shame. Guilt driven people are manipulated by memories. Their greatest mistake is that they allow their past to control their future. Unconsciously they are punishing themselves for their past mistakes or considered failures of not to succeed. They believe that they were in the position to succeed but for their own failures to grab opportunities they are back then. Their lives are without a real goal or ambition to look forward to anything. We can logically summarize this as life without purpose.
Resentment and anger.
Some of us are victims; we were hurt in the past. But, instead of releasing the pains through forgiveness, they rehearse in our minds without doing a thing about it. Resentment in nature, scientists so argue, hurts you more than the person you resent (angry with). The offenders may have already forgotten their offence and gone on well with their lives, you continue to stew yourself in pains. Those who hurt you in the past cannot continue hurting you now unless you hold on the pains through resentment.
Fear.
Can come from various sources such as traumatic experiences, unrealistic expectations, highly controlling parents or even genetic predisposition. Irrespective of the source, people whose lives are driven by fear miss a lot in life because they afraid to venture in a try. Instead, they would like to play it safe and clean while maintaining the status quo. Sorry for these people they are self-imprisoned.
Materialism.
Here the desire to acquire becomes the whole goal of their lives. The guiding belief here is that having more will make one happier, more important and more secure. But these are misconceptions. Happiness, importance and security are not the result of material acquisition rather a combination of many, of coerce, material inclusive. We will need social achievements, intellectual satisfaction and spiritual development. It is a combination of all these that can bring eventual joy.
Approval.
Many people, the number here is real great, allow the expectations of others - parents, teachers, sponsors, children or friends - to control their lives. The moment you allow the worry of what others will think of you the life becomes miserable and very hard. It is unfortunate that those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it. "I don’t know all keys to success but one key to failure is to try to please everyone".
The dead end these driving forces will take you is the same; unused potential, unnecessary stress and unfulfilled life. This is not where I would like you to be. Make sure you fight all these forces and decide on your own destiny and be yourself.
Remember:
· The ultimate choice of whom you want to be is yours; no one will live your life for you.
· If you do not plan and set goals in advance, the chances are, you will regret when it is a bit too late.
· You can if you want to do it. (Remember, it is possible, just play your part)
· If you keep looking ahead you will see the invisible and achieve the so called impossible.
· You will always need to work on your strategy, your altitude, your spirit and your health.
· To be positive, turn your mind to positive altitude pattern, see what others don’t see. (see the glass half full not half empty)
· Do to your level best, and then leave the rest for God.
Success:
See your goals
Understand the obstacles (mission)
Clear your mind of doubts
Create a positive mental picture
Embrace the challenges
Stay on track
Show the world you can do it.
May God's Holy Spirit guide you to understand all these? It is my hope that, by taking all these in actions, you won’t be the same.
Mind you, everything you do need faith, what you see (in your heart) is what will happen; faith. Trust yourself, you can do it.
Yours in Christ Jesus,
Ev. Azgard S. Chamulungwana
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